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What Do Dominants Desire?

by Aramock Nanuck

     May 2021

 

Years of interacting with dominants worldwide yield a common set of desires most submissives should be aware of.

Genuine Dominants Desire

Genuine Dominants are only interested in adults for the real deal 24x7, TPE, live-in situations. Their long-term goal in any relationship is the possession of a complete BDSM slave. Many previous properties moved on to other owners or returned home for their reasons after years of service.

Why Pet Training 

Genuine Dominants focus first on total obedience training all slaves as pets.

 

Travel

True Dominants require slaves to accompany them on business and casual trips. Travelling slaves need to appear as a protégé in the vanilla world and slaves in fetish settings. The illusion of normalcy requires respectable appearance, poise and culture. Failure, in any regard, is heavily punished.

 

Submissive Focus

Genuine Dominants do not expect assets (property/slaves) to work; instead, they support their needs in a safe/sane and fulfilling fashion. Real Dominants believe that their property needs to be spoiled and punished to keep them in a state of balance. Dominants usually demand individuals with no or a minimum of limits and those accepting their sadistic tendencies.

 

And yes, Dominants enjoy humiliating slaves in public and private forums related to lifestyle (e.g., munches, fetish balls) and tend to have equally available and valuable to a few friends.

 

That would mean leaving the comfort and security of their local setting and move into the Dominant's home for the tenure of any agreement. Many Dominants have experience in the art of pleasuring while respecting a slave. Yes, Dominans appreciate a slave for the gifts, skills and service they contribute.

 

Priorities

Dominants are usually clean and get tested regularly to make sure they stay that way. They prioritize life following a simple order (typically called the 5 "F's":

 

  1. Family

  2. Friends

  3. Finances/Work

  4. Fetishes and

  5. Fucking

 

They tend to have no interest in those placing fucking in the top 4. While Dominants all LOVE to fash and experience a good time, follow such priorities and expect the same from partners. They frequently don't have sex all that often! It's fun to enjoy wild kinky sex, but it's not their entire life. When a Dominant gives themselves, they do so totally just as they expect of their slaves. All of their senses, energy, desire, emotion focus on a shared intimacy. Sex involving all the senses intensely is a mystical experience. There must be mutual respect, passion and understanding for two people to reach that level of intimacy. It is only when, without restraint that BDSM relationships blossom.

 

Mindsets and Society

Most Dominants also have blogs. Individuals wishing to interact with them will garner a better understanding of their mindsets by reading the posts. Many Dominants feel alone, out of place and frustrated in this politically correct, socially liberal and interpersonally conservative society. Modern western cultures reject individuals who live alternative lifestyles their entire lives. Yet, in many cases devoting oneself to an alternative lifestyle is a genuine, realistic existence.  It requires respect, honesty and open-mindedness in all aspects of life. I am and. It's my goal to find another equal soul feeling just as frustrated, unlike the social norm of being puritanically moulded with closed minds. Crippling each other with lies only adds to the frustration and the dark explosions from repressed bigots.

 

Relationships Dynamics

Dominants seek intimate friendship and sexual partners to explore and enjoy all the wild and beautiful fantasies and pleasures available. They do not want a one-night-stand but expect more connection with others. They need a slave who is on their level and not afraid to share or explore limits, no games, no bullshit.

 

The Darker Side

Dominants tend to demand total obedience and will punish any shortcoming, at times severely, particularly if a repeat offence. Many get aroused the most when inflicting pain, so it is almost standard fare from mild to medium most time using a slave. Regardless of where or the situation, Dominants tend to enforce strict protocols.

Dominants will often leave marks regularly, but the intelligent and sensitive ones keep them hidden from showing by the dress or blouse. They may use all manner of devices in adding torments, and many are mental. Dominants believe a slave does not own its body but is the Dominant's to do with as they please, including sharing with those they wish to gain leverage over.