Discipline and Control

Control Begins with Oneself

Being a Dominant takes time and a hell of a lot of patience. The first thing is that the Dominant must assert control of themselves before ever taking control of a situation, scene or another individual.  The dominant needs to focus on achieving of the parties involved if they expect a continuing relationship. 

 

It is critical that a dominant never engage in discipline or S&M activities when angry or in the heat of passion. Passion and anger tend to be stimulants that result in caution going out the window. We lose sight of the individual we are with and the flames of our emotions propel us to extremes which may be inappropriate. This is primarily important when pursuing extreme sessions because this is where one's control must be absolute. Overstepping a safe or sane level of risk will put limb and could put lives in harm's way.

 

Remember BDSM is NOT Abuse

Most important assert the dominance without being a bully. Limits are established up front, individuals tolerances may be pushed and tested but it is critical that "too much" remains "too much".  Safe-words have to be respected if a suitable edgy scene is undertaken. Safe-words should never be needed for disciplinary procedures.  This is why non-physical discipline (dealt with separately) is actually the preferred punishment form for many dominants alternatively to the application of pain.

 

A Recipient Is...

They are the ones who RECEIVE the physical impacts or results of the actions used in order to discipline. The recipient may simply be a miscreant (one deserving punishment), or supplicant (casual player), or a serious masochist, or even extremist... degrees of which are left to the imagination.  In all cases, the administration of paint applied is directly proportional to the nature of the person, the activity being undertaken and situation which is occurring. Remember that in this lifestyle many of the characteristics defining a recipient frequently result in more of a need than a desire to be punished. 

 

Ultimately is the Dominant’s who sets the rhythm and tone of the event, yet the Dominant is expected to explore the nature and needs of the recipient. True submission wins out every time over sexual desire in all cases with real dominant spirits. It is like a pheromone. The reverse is true for real submissive’s, almost like bees to pollen.

 

Preparation

The Dominant must prepare this will be a challenge for the Dominant and is expected to rise to the occasion. Failure will not occur because the Dominant will lose the recipient if they do. The Dominant must physically manifestation their will and spirit, and totally without any sexual intent. Make sure the Dominant meditate on this before the session as the mind must be completely clear and focus on the objective.

 

Social Conditioning

There is an abundance of pressure social to NOT hurt another, in most cultures the inflicting of pain on another is viewed not only as something which is wrong but for the religious a truly "sinful" act. It is essential that the Dominant’ has found a way to compartmentalize this or remove the inherent reluctance from their mind.  Vanilla standards or morals will interfere with the objectives and cause the recipient to become unsatisfied with the commitment of the Dominant.  Therefore, if reluctant to "go the limit"does not begin or at a minimum ensure the recipient is aware of this in advance.

 

The First Session

Make sure it should be a safe and sane situation where the recipient can have a mutually acceptable observer is present or be alone if complete trust exists. Buy also a switch, a long bamboo pole to hold up plants about as thick as the Dominant’s little finger, the Dominant can get them at most garden centres. And some twine coarse but soft.

  • The Dominant need to be in total control, the Dominant’s word is final.

  • If recipient resists at any point slap the recipient

  • If others are present glare at them ... do not let anyone challenge the Dominant’s authority.

  • No one touches the recipient without the Dominant’s explicit instruction.

  • Make sure you have discussed in advance a shared domination with the recipient if it is on the agenda.

 

Now the session.

Put it on the recipient in front of anyone who will be present. Ensure they are keenly aware of being observed or monitored. The act of being disciplined in front of others adds a humiliation factor to the event. The effect can be even more surreal if the recipient knowing concedes to being watched.   

 

Never verbalize but let the Dominant’s actions demonstrate the utter sovereignty. From this point onwards the Dominant is ceasing authority over the recipient. Remember the dynamic will change if the dominant and recipient are friends. The recipient or dominant will avoid crossing certain lines even if one or the other wants to experience more too... 

 

Stalling or Halting the Action

From thereon in NO is an unacceptable answer to the Dominant from the recipient.  Pleading and tears are not an indication to change the course of action. Set in advance clear safe-word or actions which indicate the following (with examples):

  • STOP ALL ACTIVITIES   .............    "Red Light" or if gagged - stamping one's foot 3 times.

  • SLOW THE ACTION DOWN .....   "Yellow Light" or if gagged  - waving an open hand up and down 3 times.

  • MORE INTENSITY PLEASE .......    "Green Light" or if gagged - nodding head 3 times.

 

Playful Control

If the recipient resists or confronts the Dominant then the Dominant should slap the recipient cheek hard enough to sting but not enough to leave a mark. Tell the recipient to watch the recipient’s mouth.

 

Sampling the Atmosphere

Insist the recipient:

  • Undresses in front of the audience, facing the major attendees, or the Dominant.

  • Folds their clothes neatly and lays them in a specific place where in sight but in general reach.

  • Assumes the nadu position in the centre of a room with nothing nearby.

 

If there is any resistance explain to the recipient that clothes can cause bunching that changes the strike which could cut the skin. Make it clear the Dominant wants to avoid unnecessary deeper injuries.

 

Select the object to first be used in front of the recipient. Flex the item to be used.  Examine it, make impact motions in the air, building up the anticipation of the impending impact.  If you are preparing a switch, then take the process slowly let the recipient savour the effect and fear... until it becomes palatable.

  • Cut it to 36”,

  • Wrap the base (6”) with the twine closely, three layers thick.

  • Then flick it in front of everyone; this is as much to get everyone’s reaction as for the Dominant to get used to the weight. 

  • Have the recipient take the position of the slaver's kiss. 

  • Move behind the recipient, out of their line of vision. 

  • Flick the switch two or three times in the air.

  • The apply the first strike across both buttocks as flat as possible, but very softly.

  • Aim high and on the thickest, fleshy part of the butt.

  • Follow this at a few seconds in between (count to 3 or 5) with slightly increasing intensity.

  • Continue until the impact leaves a slight red mark on the butt cheeks.

  • Always make sure the slap is flat to the body.

  • Position the foot it is flat to the ground the soles are facing upwards to the ceiling.

  • Strike the soles of the feet with the same intensity as the butt strikes.

 

Change Up

Repetition may be good for exercise or true punishment, but when delving into the arts of Sadism variety and uncertainty makes for a more complete and fulfilling experience.

  • Have the recipient now change the recipients pose to an inspection stance.

  • After this move behind the recipient and spreading their feet apart. This is so humiliating to the recipient, the sensation of being mere meat to punish, and this objectification starts to heighten the experience.

  • Have the recipient assume a supplication position.

  • Have the recipient kiss the Dominant’s feet, and thank the Dominant for the session.

 

Anticipation

The biggest factor in making the session an experience rather than a torment is to create a mindset within the maso where they are somewhat surprised by the experience. Accomplishing surprise means:

  • Always wait for slightly varying times between blows so the effect is felt by the recipient and the uncertainty of the impending strike registers in the mind of the recipient. 

  • Ensure the experience is shared by the other recipients, they should be aware and wonder"

    • What it will be like;

    • What is the next blow;

    • Should they expect it to be strong or weak?

    • Will it leave a mark?

  • Leave three or four welts marks

 

Increasing Intensity

From there on you can ratchet this up in the future, mixing bondage with punishment. After about 4-5 sessions the recipient will submit completely after a session as thanks.

 

Introducing new Tormentors

Only after the Dominant has focused entirely on the recipient and completed a session can they offer to let someone else have a flick of the switch using the recipient.  This change makes clear the dominance over the recipient and their status as an object. Expect the observers if present to cringe or resist, unquestionably many will NOT want to demonstrate their actions in front of others present. Refusal to step forward relegates these voyeurs as “wannabes” in the recipient’s eyes and any others present. 

 

 

 

Do Not forget the After-Care

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