Dominance is...

by Aramock Nanuck

     September 1996

Dominance is not an act as it is an intellectual, philosophical, emotional, and thoughtful state.

 

The Appropriate Mix 

Dominance entails conquest and requires effort, desire, and ability.  If any of the three is missing, then the dominance is lacklustre at best. True dominance does not come from whips or chains but torments and bonds much deeper. The best mind fuck is when a true dominance takes the desire for independence and replaces it with total dependence.

  

Submission vs Surrender

A slave gives submission as a form of surrender with choices after that residing with the dominant. One can offer submission, but in doing so diminishes it. In fact, the submissive offers capitulation, but it is the dominant person who accepts it, and in accepting it takes the freedom from the submissive. This changes when surrender is not freely given but one compelled or forced of an individual and demanded by the dominating entity or situation. There is a fallacy in this lifestyle that the submissive surrender their freedom willingly. When forcing upon the submission as a victim, dominance effectively grabs the throat with invisible hands, squeezing ever so tightly that the submissive realizes it has no options.

 

 The Act of Owning

The taking of an individual as property requires there is control and, yes, even violence. The act of dominating needs to initiate with a rending of the soul, the mind, and self-image. The dominant shreds the parts of a submissive’s psyche, which are self-defining, replacing them with a structure and form suitable to the dominant needs. The usurping of wills leaves the slave with a single path forward, and the return to "freedom" is impossible; no options left, ONLY its submission. The effect is why freed individuals, once emancipated, those with a truly "slavish mindset" always seek a return to the structure and control of submission in which they find comfort.

 

 Applying the Stockholm Psychosis

Any true dominants know this; they practice a form of "Stockholm Syndrome" and take what they're by right of willpower. Now and forever. The human survival instinct is powerful, and when faced with overwhelming odds, individuals tend to either rebel forcible or instinctive become diminutive as a function of survival and self-protection. Clinical psychology researchers found the attachment of individuals to dominants occurred in all the "hostage" groups studied, including:

  • Lifestyle submissives,

  • Cult members,

  • Battered women,

  • Incest victims and

  • Those suffering from physical or emotional abuse.

 

There is no universally accepted definition of the Stockholm Syndrome, but there is agreement that observations demonstrated the following:

  • The captives, submissives and subjugated all hold:

    • Positive feelings towards his/her subjugator.

    • Negative feelings toward any individuals attempting to disengage them from the subjugation.

  • The subjugators generally develop:

    • Positive feelings towards their subjugated

    • Protective of their subjugated

    • Defensive of eternal interference.

 

It has been found to occur in circumstances where there is:

  • A threat to survival and a belief that the captor is willing to carry out that threat.

  • Some small kindness from the captor to the captive occurs within the context of terror.

  • Isolation from perspectives other than those of the captor.

  • Perceived an inability to escape.

Prey or Victim

Dominants within the lifestyle infuse much in candidate submissives through a mix of terror and excitement. The submissive at first feels victimized and possibly trapped or unable to escape, therefore, connecting their physical, psychological or even emotional well-being to their submission. A skillful dominant realizes that the victim needs nurturance and protection to process the terror and a sense of compliance to justify the excitement. Sometimes it is the isolation from others that compels the victim to turn to the abuser; at other times, it becomes a group dynamic where simply as a part of a community, they find following the pattern a sense of “normalcy.”  

 

Kindness as a Bond

The small kindness given by the dominant creates hope and comfort within the subjugated. The kindness shown allows the subjugated to overlook their overwhelming rage at times accompanying the abuse. They compartmentalize it hides it, and accept the acts as normal or even fulfilling. This further bonds the subjugated to the dominant at a profound and emotional level.

 

Hope Reinforces Submission

The hope builds with every event, and the subjugated begin to take on more acts to keep their dominator happy enthusiastically. Determined to build on the emotional bonding and needs in the subjugated, they begin to arrest their own needs, feelings, and perspectives. Putting their self-worth and value as secondary to those of the Dominator allows them to adopt the dominant perspective unconsciously.

 

Role Definition

Now the dominant becomes the "positive force," and those acting against the continuation of the situation become "negative forces." The entire sense of self over time (depending on the intensity of the situation) becomes the dominant desire. This transformation results in the subjugated becoming a “slave” to the will of their “Master,” and if the opportunity arises to challenge the state, the slave ceases to have reason to do so.

 

Total Power Exchange

Never wanting the limelight or openly interacting with people without instructions. They merely become casually involved in conversations at the request of others and while never truly becoming wallflowers in social situations. The submission is now total and complete, a true power exchange.

 

The best and most successful dominates are intelligent, thoughtful, analytical and very practiced in the arts of cementing submissive bonding. It becomes the cornerstone of long-running relationships and the flight and return or errant submissives.