Domination without Kink
The question often asked is if there can be real domination without the kink? This is quickly followed by, does domination automatically evolve into kink or is there some other driver for the intertwining of the two within the BDSM lifestyle?
Real Power is...
The attitude and emphasis you place on how relationships are managed, NOT:
The titles heaped on oneself!
The trapping exhibited!
The imagery, glamour or styles surrounding a person!
The pleasures, rights or freedoms which are stolen from others.
The tributes demanded by a tyrant!
Corporate Boardroom Culture
Most board meetings of a Fortune 500 company are in a formal office or boardroom of one of the world’s 100 largest corporations. The power exercised in those rooms is a training ground for the contest of wills, dominance, and raw animal predatory exchange. Many people coat it is very nice and fuzzy words, but it is Domination all the same without the KINK.
Primal and Ingrained
The is in many dominates the basic need to control their lives, the situations around them and as many of the people, they interact with as possible. The exercise control over people who challenge or through the evolution of politics exist at a higher station requires special talents, not found in most people. It is the avoidance of being subservient in environments where high-power stakes and hidden agendas, and the lust for power that is the true mark of a dominant no matter their station. The need to control and direct the outcome of state changes outweighs the basic needs of heat, food, and shelter. Many times the lust for power in true dominants exceed the raw animal sexual needs and tastes in most humans.
The corporate world is a grand training ground for dominants, for if you can control a room of the most powerful people in a global corporation and convince them to decide on what you are proposing... well then you are a DOMINANT. In the same way at no point does the sexual part of the demonstration come into play.
What is the Source of Kink
Ultimately in relationships, it is the deliberate exercise of the power to "take" what is desired. It is neither romantic nor even physical in nature but a true demonstration of the dominance of will. As with all human sexuality, it becomes repetitive quickly rendering most acts stale and boring. The difference is rather than "just going through the motions" a true dominant finds a way to energize the activities, making them exciting and unsure for their partners. The lack of balance and conformity entices, excites and exhilarates the partner (submissive/slave)’ and through the feedback given to the dominant energizes them. The dominant feeds of the sensations and responses of the subject partners which keeps them entertained. The process continues usually each time drawing on more and varied experiences adding to the cycle of renewal. Kinky acts become a natural outgrowth in these situations.