Power Dynamics and Hierarchies

Individuals have written a lot specific to the lifestyle of late, but it usually is quite unrealistic or filtered by the neo-Christian ideal. Even some of the journalist or academic materials are not what could be considered unbiased. Probably the person who first brought this to the forefront in modern times (1980's onward) is Ivan D. Chase, published articles on this subject; while the most relevant and specific to the lifestyle is: "Dynamics of Hierarchy FORMATION: The Sequential Development of Dominance Relationships" 1982. It is a good summary how dominance comes to bear in social groups and inevitably forces a hierarchical structure to come to bear. More recently work by Dulcinea Pitogara has written a lot on "The Kink-Poly Confluence" which also deals with the aspects of how hierarchies form in poly-amorphous relationships. Little focused research should get you the academic works, but many of them miss the emotional and structural aspects that are a drive in a strained power dynamic when more than one person rises to challenge for dominance in a community. It is very hard to write about lifestyle power dynamics if you do not live it. So the understanding of power and control is as much a metaphysical as a psychological thing. 



Where do these structures and organizational hierarchies come from, well mostly from the fact that those involved in BDSM are a community of such wild a varied proportions with a mix of everything imaginable that stratification was a natural occurrence to emerge. Once people began to have a multiplicity of relationships, then those involved started forming hierarchies. This lifestyle is largely about dominance and structure forgetting all of the kink sides to it. So power distance and rules had to come in place to allow for this distinction within a varied group structure. Also, this lifestyle is much closer to a feudal or oligarchy than anything else, and certainly as far removed from democracy as it can come so it was natural this would emerge. The details of the hierarchies are molded and adapted by those in it but help to codify it over the past 40 years has allowed me to exist within an extremely complex and dynamic social order that is this lifestyle.


Dictatorial Nature

Those above them almost always dictate the rights or privileges of those who are at a level. Complex power structures and a poly household, in particular, require an agreement supported by the will to enforce them strictly according to the terms of reference. Those entering the group do so at varying levels, and only through negotiation can change the terms of reference for their station within the organization. As with all organizations, the larger it becomes, the more difficult it is to maintain a dynamic nature to change. These dynamics affect the people already in the organization and their position in it. The power structure needs to remain clear as the relationship progresses from a couple to a threesome, (or more-some,) to a truly poly organization. The structures remain constant within a small group, but as the groups mingle (i.e., Orgies, Events or Munches), the dynamic requires more and more structure to avoid the antithesis of this lifestyle anarchy.


The intent is to avoid cases where two dominants wrestle for power or one suppresses the other as a part of the process to merge their groups. Ultimate there is only ever one true dominant, and the others take secondary or tertiary roles, and the submissives follow an elongated chain back their old structures or end up blending. Highly, highly dynamic. It is also where the need to demand the submission of a master to another forces the subordinate in the act of shame to sexually submit in front of the host to the primary. The submitting dominant looses face in front of not only the other dominants but also his/her submissive making they subject as well to the will of the primary. This power transfer is almost instant in the minds of submissive but can take longer and repeated re-enforcing on the subordinate.


Advancement and Demotion

Movement through the ranks from lowest of low to high or in reverse is always possible. The human dynamic is constantly at play plus even with a "glass ceiling" the best of dominants will not just allow but encourage challenges among subordinate for the pride of place. Keeping the dynamic alive, and properly managed keeps the subs from challenging the dominant. Semi-public forums establish places for these trials to occur. Frequently organized around events or munches where acts of true humiliation follow the preceding defeat. The power and dynamic of the results always are transferred to the dominant hosting the event and enhances their stature while diminishing the stature of those competing. Even the winner regardless of circumstance is diminished because they competed for the pleasure of the dominant and his guest; many times the dominant is rewarded or paid for the pleasure of others viewing the spectacle; hearkening back to the days of gladiatorial challenges.


Now there are situations where juniors will challenges seniors for the pride of place; in the same way, younger males challenge the Alpha male of a pack of wolves. While most likely it is the offspring who hold the strongest likelihood of success. It is the emotional attachment and protection of one’s own young that forms a dominants biggest weakness. Conversely when dominants compete there can only ever be on the victor, and the loser must drop one but many levels to truly prevent a resurgence from the same challenger. So in those cases many times failed challengers become a slave themselves, and their slaves become peers or even superior to the challenger further humiliating it.


Feudal Rule

BDSM is not a democracy, nor can it survive as such. This lifestyle demands authoritarian rule, a dictatorship if you will. Dominants, as a result, also become sadists and control freaks. Those who lose their edge inevitably lose their power, and become fodder for other dominants. Some submissive members become switches and aspire to be dominants. But in this harsh reality of the lifestyle can never truly be dominant in the presence of other dominants. They must strike on their own and raise their hegemony or overthrow the current dominant and in turn, make them submissive to the new dominant. This aspect of the lifestyle is truly as close to what predatory pack animals live as is possible and is the only way to compare our lifestyle and culture.


Harsh reality (I know) but truly one with the passion and excitement to never be boring.

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