Transference of Another's Property
A Private Journey
Let’s face it, almost every one of us attracted to D/s or BDSM came to it first because of exposure to some erotic imagery and the fantasy it conjured for us. Our minds wrote a story of what the images meant to us and how we fit into them.
In this lifestyle, sincere people are frequently not attracted by looks, but rather their profile provides a hook. Those focusing on appearances rarely want to actually do more than look and merely garner photos for their fantasy fulfillment, which suffices. However, with faithful adherents, a cord is struck from the phrases used and the desire to explore the possibilities.
When what follows is a lack of complete and honest disclosure, then the challenges manifest themselves to the original interests. The weakness or typical nature of a profile or subsequent failure to disclose that some factor regarding a current situation compounds the loss of faith. It becomes worse when dominants are nothing more than players or submissive become mere fantasy seekers or worse! Avoiding the disenchantment is challenging but usually worthwhile.
For me, that first exposure came at a pretty young age and sparked something within that has never left me across the decades. Whether one identifies with submissiveness or Dominance, we view these images through our respective lenses and evoke emotions and physical responses within us.
For some, it is simply sexual excitement, while for others (like me), it is something far deeper and more visceral; a yearning, a longing, a need. Still, others find any introduction to BDSM downright disgusting and degrading or simply not to their liking. And you know what? That’s okay, and not everyone needs to be kinky. And one person's kink may not be another, but so long as we don't judge, it is okay.
Submission, Domination and Transference
Submissive usually become attracted to the lifestyle because of a specific fetish. Many people join websites, chat forums, etcetera mainly to find a Master who shares interests, needs and desires in common.
Triggering fear and danger with sexual urgency requires waiting for dessert to instruct her to leave the table for the Ladies’ Room to remove her panties. She will look to you for support. At this point, you must nod to her and given non-verbal agreement. Subconsciously this is a straightforward transference of authority as is possible. I will hand her a paper bag to put them in.
She will return her pussy and ass bare and fully accessible. Returning is to hand me the bag. I will peer inside:
If she folded the items neatly, then she completely submitted. If she crumpled the things, then she still resists domination.
The naughty, blatant sexual behaviour in public is utterly contradictory to the upbringing and conduct expected.
This instantly pushes the taboo buttons for a heightened submissive and sexual responses.
The stage s set for domination. The individual is now expecting your acceptance. They will wish to discover shared interests, needs and desires,
To illustrate how to use heightened sexual states in Sensual Domination, imagine me having a simple lunch with the two of you for our first face-to-face meeting.
The process of triggering the anticipation and nervousness heightened sexual response is related to “stoking the fire”. I have written several blog articles about these concepts. A basic concept of building up intense sexual anticipation within a submissive by giving your wife various tasks to complete over several days in preparation for a face-to-face meeting. The basic is goal is to pique your wife's mental curiosity and arousal.
In addition, a precondition is not allowing her to pleasure herself in any way for many days in advance of the meeting. This wiil ensure she will be in a heightened state of denial and desire coupled with a natural response to commands.
Triggering fear and danger with sexual urgency requires while waiting for dessert is to instruct her to leave the table for the Ladies’ Room to remove her panties. She will look to you for support. At this point, you must nod to her and given non-verbal agreement. Subconsciously a clear transference of authority is now possible. I will hand her a paper bag to put yem in.
She will return her pussy and ass bare and fully accessible. Returning is to hand me the bag. I will peer inside. I can tell if they are folded neatly, she has totally submitted them. If crumpled she still has a resistance to full domination. Because this kind of naughty, blatant sexual behaviour in public is completely contradictory to the upbringing and conduct expected of mos "Good Girls" regardless of culture or ethnicities. This immediately pushes the taboo buttons for a heightened submissive and sexual responses.
Triggering the shock, surprise or pain heightened sexual response is the most simple and instinctual for most Doms. A general rule for all kink sessions is having the subject beg permission to orgasm or be severely punished. I invariably refuse the first request to exert control to increase the urgency of the sexual imperative. Frequently I refuse successive requests until I seeing the physical and hearing the verbal desperation then I deliberately inflict intense pain.
The sudden intense pain is completely unexpected which causes a complete loss of control and usually a massive orgasm. The mental link of pain to pleasure is now clearly registered. The resulting orgasms tend to be mindbogglingly epic. Once starting to cum, I continue stimulation which forces multiple orgasms that never accompany my own satisfaction. This permanently releases the “eager inner vixen” within the subject and leaves cause to punish for the failure to "please me" as they demonstrate being a "selfish slut"!!!