Hot wax evolved as a form of terror with low impact by sadists and masochist to provide intense physical stimulation. It grew from a time before the Inquisition as a method to torment the body without serious physical harm, unlike hot pokers and such. There is much more to it than merely holding a candle over top of and dripping the wax on to the bare flesh of a slave.
Numerous factors impact the temperature of the wax as it reaches the skin. The most notable of these are:
The materials used to create the wax,
Colours can impact temperature,
Constraining the wax in a glass or metal container,
The distance from which the wax drips to the skin.
Types of Wax/Candles
The type of materials used to construct the wax and in particular shape of Candle wax have a direct impact on its ambient temperature. Ideally, the choices made should be of waxy items which would not cause harsh burns or severe damage. Always expect some reddening of the skin but done the discoloration properly should clear up in a few hours at the most. If attempting to avoid serious burns, it is best to avoid:
Beeswax as it burns at a quite high temperature.
Beef tallow as wax made from animal fat is extremely hot.
Scented candles which burn at a higher temperature.
Metal wicks as candles with these typically drip molten metal.
Colour as a Modifier
The primary concern is the melting point of the wax and not the colour. However, the materials used to colour the wax can retain heat longer, or act as an accelerant or exciter which increases the overall temperature as the candle burns. A good comparison is wearing a white, brightly coloured or dark (even black) shirt in the hot summer sun. The amount of heat reflected and retained by the fabric is different while the source of the heat (the sun) remains constant.The colour of the wax will affect the melting temperature of a candle.
Metallic colours have exciters which increase the temperature and may contain poisonous metallic salts.
Red candles tend to drip hotter than black or white.
Green, Blue and Yellow candles burn slightly hotter than pure white but less than red.
Black candles will burn warmer than white candles.
Pure white candles burn the coolest of all.
Candles held in glass jars or metal frames will all burn hotter. The wax will pool as it melts, retaining the heat more but also making spillage far more likely. Unless the individual holding the candle has a steady hand and keen eye, the pouring of wax will have more volume than the mere dripping of candles. However, such items make it more conducive to dripping the wax from a higher distance and will also ensure the flame does not get blown out. There is a choice to make, which should largely be governed by how much natural breeze of fan propelled air is in the area.
The safest to use is a plain 100% paraffin candles, these burn at a safer temperature.
Boy scouts make some of the best fetishists as they always are prepared. Be so yourself. Wax can be messy, so having an environment which is conducive to this is a good start. Using a marble table top or stone table to lay the submissive on is the best alternative. Many Dom's own marble full-length dining tables for just this reason. Alternatively, have the submissive lay on top of a cheap vinyl shower curtain or disposable tablecloth will provide an excellent catchment for any splatter.
The temperature wax should remain below 45 degrees Celsius (110 Fahrenheit). Higher temperatures will cause, scalding and blisters occurring. Tested the temperature on the inside of your wrist just as though you were checking the temperature of a baby bottle. You should also keep very cold water or ice and burn ointment nearby in the event of an accidental burn.
An Easily Maintained Area
Conduct the scene is an area easily cleaned. By inference then avoid carpet, bedding or other fabric covered furniture. Invariable spillage occurs, and the removal of wax from deep fibres is a nightmare and needing professional cleaners.
Body Hair Issues
Be aware that If the submissive is very hairy in the targeted area, the hairy will come off. The effect is no different than waxing at a beauty parlour. Hair in particularly sensitive areas (genitals, etc.) will be quite painful if pulled out when removing the cold wax after the session concludes. It may be advisable to have them shaved or using plastic wrap to avoid sticking to the hair. It is also possible to purchase special candles made from a wax that will not stick to hair.
Alternatively, a sadistic approach is to let the wax adhere to the hair, place small oil absorbent strips on and allow to cool, then briskly remove. There will be significant pain which can delight sadist and masochist alike.
Restraining the subject is a good idea if placing candles where the subject can accidentally knock them over. However, if restraining a subject remember you are dealing with fire and if the surroundings ignite you will wish to release the subject so they can flee to safety quickly.
Pooling and Moulds
Watch out for the pooling of wax in low areas like belly buttons (particularly if they have an "inny"), ass cracks or vagina. The pools will retain heat and can increase the discomfort when the wax becomes too concentrated. It is easy to pour wax into the area slowly, let it cool and harden then add more until the area is sealed. The careful lifting from the skin of the wax images provides a keepsake in the form of a mould of the area protected. The mould idea also works for the vagina if done thick enough.
There are numerous activities possible with wax, we will discuss the main items of interest for the majority of parties.
Introducing Novices to Wax
When engaging a novice to wax, it is important to set their minds at ease. Fire (and wax being a by-product of it) is one of the scariest forms of threats the human mind conjures. So if someone has never tried wax it best to establish a routine to relax them. Touching the portion skin where the wax will be applied, explaining how the process occurs, and tracing the path that application of wax will happen, allows the subject to prepare for the event. It causes the trepidation to fade that away, over time you will no longer need to do this, but it is a good practice that allows the submissive to focus where to expect the wax. Over time the reactions will place the subject into the desired sub-space you.
Allow for Time
Waxing sessions can run from 20 minutes to three (3) hours. Make sure the subject is comfortable for the long-term and pees before starting. Allow the subject the ability to flex or move a little. Also, having drinks with bendable straws for the subject to rehydrate throughout the scene is advised.
As with all fetish practices, knowledge and experience count. Starting simple and building up to the more complex is the best way to develop skills. So yes, the simplest is to hold a lit candle over a subject and tilt it, allowing droplets of hot wax fall to the skin of the subject. Remembering height can compensate for temperature then you can slowly begin to adjust the height with coloured candles to allow for some rather spectacular splashes.
A votive is an object offered in fulfilment of a vow, such as a candle used as a vigil light. Placing these on a body will be precarious hence again a little forethought and planning are necessary. Pour enough wax in pools on the body to secure the votives in place. Place the votives on and hold until the wax sets. The votives hold the wax until the end of the scene while the overflow causes a rush of warm sensations.
It is important to ensure to seat securely the votive before attempting the following, or else wax could splash everywhere. A seemingly playful yet sadistic thing to do is to tickle the subject and watch the subject try not moving. Slightly shaking the subject will also cause the flow of wax from the votive.
Jar Candles and Crock Pots
Jar Candles have many properties and advantages over raw wax. For one thing, they constrain the mess significantly. Jars have the advantage of creating volumes of heat wax quickly. The jar/crock provides a ready medium for then apply the wax in large volumes over a short time.
However, usually best to use small jars that are not re-usable. Jar Candles are expensive as replacing for frequent scenes will cost. While melting blocks of wax in a crock makes for huge volumes with little or no waste and the crocks remain highly reusable. The one caution is to keep them on a heat low enough to melt the material but not so high as to cause the wax to become superheated; remember the 45C rule. A good way to ensure this is to stick a candy thermometer into the wax in the crock and check it from time to time.
Before using a Jar Candle check it thoroughly for cracks and flaws. The smallest of cracks in the glass may cause it to shatter after lighting the candle. It may not be immediate but as the heat builds up eventually the flaw will giveaway.
Jar Candles allow those who love the warmth and heat but hate the feel of wax dripping on them to enjoy the experience. It is possible to use a cheap smaller paintbrush to dip into the wax and use to it to apply the wax on the subject.
Another approach is to allow the heated wax to pool and then pour it on slowly to a large swath of the area. This approach is particularly handy if trying to prepare a base coat of wax upon which to build. Again a particularly convenient approach for applying large volumes to sensitive areas such as the genitals.
As with all things fet, simple quickly becomes boring and mundane. The desire to increase and wrap up the experience or use it as an art form becomes a driver to many participants. Using the wax as a medium to create images which can be later removed from the body and saved takes effort and time. Allow for this when planning the effort.
Start the session with the wax having no added colours. Help the subject get into the proper mindset and develop tolerance by little drips of wax at varying heights across different areas of the body. Slowly add colours, remembering that different colours transfer heat in a differing manner. A steady series of drops slowly building up is the best for the sensual sensations of the subject. Remember to rotate the candles around while dripping to have the wax melt evenly. Note that different areas of the body may tolerate as much heat as other areas (such as genitalia).
Prep for Removal
For better removal, a light covering of cling wrap or nonpetroleum-based cream on the body allow for easy lifting. However, With plastic wrap, the features of the body underneath frequently get distorted. Choose wisely. The effect of Mummification is an experience all its own the addition of hot wax simply takes it to a whole new level.
For the more adventurous and artistically inclined the passion for body waxing and art can be combined. When doing artist images on the body, it is important to realize that the contours and shape of the body will have as much to do with the image as the actual coloured wax.
Wax art is the occasion where some crock pots and jar candles may be necessary to provide sufficient material to produce a work of art. Prepare a neutral base first, always as most artists do start from the lightest colour to the darkest. Apply a base coat of about 5-7cm (1/2 inch) thick base to the area where the image will be produced.
Then take an etching tool and trace the pattern of the design into the coat of base wax., Here you can decide to either remove portions which you wish to replace with other colours or build up the material with the new coloured wax. If removing the wax beware that the skin is sensitive, depending on the colour, it may require an additional light coat.
Now build up the image by adding premelted coloured wax from jars. Then either directly pour or brush the hot wax on to the etching. Applying some simple shapes as cut out, or added premade detailed items then apply the finer items to the image. The results will vary with practice, however over time it easy to become quite proficient in this. This art form requires the utmost of cooperations between the submissive and dominant to ensure the stability and appeal of the end product.
Waxing Artistic Images
Decide in advance the design desired. Trace it out on paper and allow for the fact that the thickness of wax requires coarse-grained design. Try out various designs on paper before commencing. The more ornate it is, the more difficult and time to consume the process will be. For less practiced trace in washable marker the design on the body of the subject. Tracing the design has the added advantage of making them fully aware of what the design is and the areas to be affected.
The Death Masks
The creation of a death mask is where the duplication face in a form which they can then be easily reproduced. There are various skills and steps required to make it possible.
The hair of the subject needs covering in a tight non-permeable covering.
Tissue wrapped straws insert partially (1cm (1/3 inch) into each nostril to full block it but alow breathing.
Cotton balls placed into the ear canal to protect the ears.
Then cover the face in a light nonpetroleum-based gell.
Now apply either
Apply a series of layers of a neutral or clear wax covering the whole of the face; building the wax up to almost 2-5cm in thickness. OR
Apply a fast drying plaster of Paris to face in a thickness of at least 5cm.
Begin with the wax form followed by cement on top of the wax.
Once solidified and hardened the mask should lift cleanly from the subject. The use of a plaster form is for when a latex replica is to be built up from the inside. The wax form in cement is to allow for the removal from the face and provide a form which can hold either other plaster of Paris, Cement or pour metal to produce a bust or mask. TRhe plain wax form is merely useful for practice before engaging in the other forms.
Temporary Wax Brands
Wax images on the body are by nature temporary. The wax will eventually separate from the body, and depending on the heat and intensity of wax the image may remain as a mark for a number of hours or even if severely burnt a few days. Some believe skin tone, and such make a radical difference, others do not. The difference is if the mark is the image in wax or the underlying damage to the skin. So if the image is the wax design then it really matters not, while darker skin tones will provide greater contrast. If it is the underlying damage to the skin, the pasty white or very pale skin tone is the best.
Find a plastic or metal shape which in which you wish the mark portrayed. Now if the injury to the skin is the objective, then use metal and even add stands of metal to add filligre to the design. Once the die is placed in the desired spot pour the wax. Again if it is the damage you wish portrayed, then use wax at temperatures up to 60C. The metal will etch a scar into the skin and last for up to 3-4 days. If it is the pattern in wax, then apply the wax at regular temperatures. Continuing to add more hot wax as long as the subject can handle the prolonged heat. Remember pouring wax into a concentrated area will massively increase the sensitivity and pain. Once the wax cools peel off the mould. If the ideal is the damage to the skin then remove the wax as well, otherwise leave it as a button or badge. Regardless the branded temporarily marks the subject as your property. Many interesting designs shapes exist today in cookie or playdough cutters like hearts, handprints. It also could simply be letter outlines shapes so words can be spelled out like Slut, Whore, Slave, etc.
Fantasy fire and wax play for masochist and submissives alike can have very strong sexual overtones. The female body is particularly sensitive are the breasts, nipples and vagina. A submissive described the wax running down her vagina as "like a 1000 little warm fingers." The subject in question was happily covered in wax from her neck down to her toes. There were five Dom/Sadists dripping wax to build a solid coat from neck to her toes. And 48 candles later the masochistic subject was grinning from ear to ear.
In men, the inner upper thigh, scrotum and penis are especially sensitive. It is virtually impossible to make a "penis mould" by totally coating the area. One trick, however, is to coat the penis in soft wax. and then sexually excite the man. As their girth and length grow continues to add soft but not overly hot wax. The end effect is a reasonable facsimile. However, the man has to loos the erection to pull free without damage to the mould.
A wax massage is another sensual treat. Pouring a small amount of wax on the hand, and rubbing it on the submissive. This is particularly effective in overly sensitive areas and gives the experience of sharing the heat.
Ice is another interesting modifier to the activity.... a little fire and ice. Ice can be used to rapidly cool wax and harden it. This allows for the massively thick waxy build up to cool quicker and allow for easier removal. The application of ice first to the skin before the addition of wax is also a particularly sadistic trick. The ice cools and numbs a particular region of the body. If followed immediately by a hot wax treatment the intense reaction is at times overwhelming.
Another idea to randomly alternate ice with hot wax, the subject realizes something impacting the skin. The sensation felt may not be what is expected like assuming wax and then the numbing cold of ice, or the cold of ice followed by an unexpected flash of hot pain. This can be used very effectively when conditions a slave or masochist. It's a very nice mind fuck. The variations are endless and only the deviousness and intellect of a specifically sadistic Dom can find their best patterns.
Removing the wax can be as erotic and full of sensation as the actual waxing. It is another area where intimate touching and caressing occurs. This is particularly true if trying to lift a formed image in a near perfect state. Many times the slow removal f the wax is simply another form of torture for the subject who has not had a cream or plastic wrap applied. Again it is if the motivation is the art or the pain which drives the experience that also drives the removal.