Dark Caslte Sin - Concepts to Consider

Concepts to Consider

by Anonymous

Varied

Difference between a young and an old bull

The young bull charges into a pasture so he can take a cow, and strolls away satisfied, aiming for the next pasture with more choices.
The old bull strolls into the pasture, takes his time, and has all of the cows while making sure each cow is satisfied. Old bulls tend to be happy with the pasture they are occupying.

The moral of this story is quite broad. The younger participants are more arrogant, self-focused and less attuned to the wisdom that comes with age.

They frequently discount their seniors as irrelevant. Elder Doms and supplicants all have great value. Wisdom comes from experiences, from living through situations that many younger people have not faced, and from developing a tolerance for one another. Younger people also often overlook the finer aspects of deportment and decorum in their haste to prove their worth.

Fear, trepidation and exposure

There will be times when those you were involved with will NOT want others to know that they were associated with you or the lifestyle. This is because they fear their urges being exposed to a world that deviates from any sense of normalcy.

Working with other people, however, can occasionally result in a privacy lapse. A web administrator or a jealous partner may update a profile, publish previously hidden information to spite, or create a wedge. This is problematic, but no one should apologize or make excuses for who they are and the lives they lead, as long as it is within the constraints of the law and is sane, safe, and consensual.

Regardless of why or how long it has been, people will eventually consider the facts, and the complications will subside or disappear. It is always easier to let the self-righteous think what they will. Let them fool themselves into believing they have some sense of moral superiority, rather than constantly wrestling with it. At some point, those hidden parts of their shame will be at risk of exposure, and while most will not think back on the acts of their past, they will feel the anxiety such situations bring. But be a better soul by letting it taunt them and not relishing in their discomfort. It is also a sign of respect.

Frauds, Fakes and Scammers

It seems every year, and the above category increases here and elsewhere. But they do not get any brighter if anything more stupid. They use the same pictures over and over again or slightly different pictures of the same person.

Their profiles tend to be repetitive in styles and seem to prey on the uninformed. Though many an experience person fails prey by the thought ", maybe this one is different."

Worse, many of us report them, point them out, but the profiles continue to exist and perpetuate. Over time I collected hundreds of names of the fakes, frauds and scammers. I willing to give these to anyone who asks and add any someone sends me.

My approach to deal with this is to assume cruising sites are a part of the problem and stop bothering to raise complaints. It is actually NOT in their best interests to curb this because it keeps their membership numbers high. There you should merely block and hide their profiles if using these. If I see photos reused, I block the profile automatically.

Occasionally like many of you, I get pissed and copy the profile and post it new with an additional letter or number and call them out, but this is usually for the most pernicious of the scammers. I suggest we all do the same.

If a profile appears too good to be true... then it is... most of these are run by organized crime and sycophants with absolutely no personal dignity.

Those of us whom lifestyle show it with pride and accept the roles we and others play. When people misrepresent themselves for commercial gain, they are repugnant at all levels. If individuals are stupid and make consistent mistakes, they are inevitably frauds. No country is free from this, but the worse are those from the UK, West Africa and the Philippines; there is almost a rule that instead of 1 in a 100 being real, for those two locals, it is more like 1 in 100,000. Not that there aren't real ones but the likelihood of finding one is reaching infinitesimal proportions.

Privacy

It is perfectly fine if a supplicant closes a door when using the toilet, whether naked, wearing only underwear, or writing in a diary in private. But beware that their dignity, self-respect, and pride are the Dominant's to control.

However, supplicants need to be aware that a Dominant may establish boundaries for them, which ultimately means they may interrupt any activity, walk in on them at any time or place, or insist on unannounced and irregular inspections. Supplicants can expect to be humiliated, especially when other people in the lifestyle are present. Nothing is off-limits regarding a supplicant's privacy as far as the Dominant is concerned. Every shred of privacy they receive is a gift and a privilege that the Dominant provides and can take away at any second. That even the most intimate parts of a supplicant's body and living situation are there for the Dominant's pleasure to view, use or access as and when they wish. Only the Dominant decides what is proper.

Supplicants need not to doubt that the Dominant alone is the custodian of their privacy and dignity; it is the Dominant's to take away as they see fit.