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BDSM - "Relationships"

by Aramock Nanuck

March 1977

We found that in all (and we mean all) of our real-life relationships, supplicants become most at peace when they do not have to make decisions. Many times, they even lose the ability to make decisions on even the simplest things... Many dominants recount having supplicants who, when put into a position to make decisions. When recalling the experience, the supplicant always described the decision process as pure mental torture. They would continuously question themselves and the choice made, frequently wondering what choice the dominant would make instead. This demonstrates how much that submission becomes largely a mental as opposed to a physical process. What occurs is the removal of choice, more so, removing the desire to choose for oneself. The mental torment becomes abuse that is more painful than anything physical, as it causes the subject to question their ability to reason.

The struggle to free yourself from the very nature of deciding so that, in effect, your submission becomes an act of kindness you receive from your Master. The use of punishment and pain is as much a sexual precursor as an event unto itself. It is necessary to instill total submission and control, and measure the limits a supplicant will surrender to their master. This begins the process of weaning you off the need to think, reason or even make intelligent choices. I exclude marks of ownership (such as brands) or beautification (tattoos), which are essential adornments for the true supplicant. However, the permanent damage to or marking of a body is for amateurs and not proud owners. This damage causes others to perceive the image of damaged goods and not a treasured object or desirable supplicant.

The supplanting of a supplicant's desires and will is a necessary act. The effort involved is exhausting in a mental, emotional, and spiritual sense, as it drains the dominant's chi (for lack of a better term). The submission is finally released, and the subject is relieved of the need to think or make a decision. This is a pleasure for the supplicant but a burden for the dominant, as the RESPONSIBILITY now shifts entirely to them. This change does not happen overnight, but rather takes weeks of conditioning, constant training, and emotional torment, and the supplicant's mind yields its will. As the will falls away, it leaves a blank slate to be written upon by the dominant. However, the resilience of will is not to be underestimated, and should the dominant fail to replace the will completely, it will resurge and challenge again.

Bonds of iron and leather can only restrain, never truly capture. Yet, the use of these instruments is essential in maintaining the illusion of a total loss of control in many cases. Take the training of an elephant as an example. At an early age, baby elephants are restrained by heavy irons, the weight and strength far above the need. The young elephant will constantly lose and become conditioned to the chains being in place. Over time, the chains are lightened even though the strength of the elephant vastly outpaces the restraint. But the embedded memory reminds the elephant, with the slightest resistance, of the futility of the struggle, and they stop. Eventually, a light string is used to reinforce the sense of its presence, yet the elephant never even checks the resistance. In their mind, they have surrendered to the defeat from so doing. This is also true for humans, although mental ability or reason must also be taken into account. Even if intellectually, they perceive freedom as a tug away, other factors halt the attempt.

Pain becomes an instrument of oppression, conversion, and activities to enhance experiences. Many people struggle and find freedom in the simplest of prisons, but true dominance comes when the prison has no bars but those your mind imposes upon you through the will of your master. And yet, in physical bondage comes the freedom of knowing resistance is futile, and slowly, the willingness to become what the dominant wishes take hold.

This is the major threshold to becoming a truly devoted supplicant. Only when the image of self and purpose has waned can a supplicant person begin supplanting the intellect needed to become a true supplicant. Pain is a stimulus to correct, a reward to please and a tool to make the supplicant eager for sexual use. This stimulation opens vistas of opportunities and experiences for the supplicant and begins the real venture towards the kinky activities sought.

The physical transformation becomes a manifestation of the image the dominant wishes to portray to the world. The supplicant becomes a supplicant who thereafter is an object of pleasure, a photo of desire, and a source for the release of pent-up frustration. The supplicant exists as a tool to exercise the demons which plague the dominant. At this point, the decision of dress, appearance, and even makeup becomes those of the Dominant, and the desire for a suppliant to choose disappears. Speech lessons, poise, and carriage are taught, transforming the individual into the SUPPLICANT / SLUT “your MASTER" can be PROUD to OWN.

People who live this lifestyle full-time are tired of children and gamers. Individuals should not expect experience from people still in their 20s, and dominance in a teenager is rarer yet. The young typically lack the self-discipline and self-control to manage themselves, let alone others. Youth can have the advantage of stamina but often lack style, commitment, or substance.