by Uniquely Piquant

      May 2011

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More than Sex

hat I want is so much more than SX; I want you greeting me at home wearing a smile and high heels, kneeling when I arrive, head down and asking permission to be used and abused. I am paraphrasing lyrics from the song “Sex” by the 1975. Augmented by the theme of Rhianna's "Whips and Chains," expressing a sentiment not just the lyric’s artistic value but to communicate something personal, perhaps feelings or desires that are difficult to articulate directly. Where themes of pleasure, control, and freedom are explored through lyrics like “Chains and whips excite me.” Suppose you’re using these lyrics to explain your deepest desires. In that case, it might reflect a yearning for both empowerment and surrender, a balancing act of being in control while also embracing vulnerability. The song speaks to embracing unconventional or taboo aspects of one’s identity and finding excitement or liberation in things that challenge societal norms. Using lyrics in this way can be a powerful tool to convey emotions or experiences that go beyond mere words.

 

I use this as a metaphor for exploring the complex layers of my desires, where the lines between freedom, control, and intimacy blur in a way that feels authentic. Combining this with intellect, it’s always great to tap into that deeper, more thoughtful approach when the moment calls for it.  I have lived this lifestyle for over 40 years, so my tastes have become mercurial. Speaking about a dynamic within BDSM that involves experience, trust, and power exchange. It’s important in such relationships to communicate openly and ensure that all parties are respected, comfortable, and consensual in their roles. When one partner claims to want to serve, it’s essential to consider the nuances of what that service means, both emotionally and physically, and how to navigate the boundaries and desires that come with such a lifestyle.

 

More than vanilla relationships, this lifestyle requires and demands trust. Trust can only be built on a foundation of absolute candour and honesty. In any relationship, but especially in lifestyles that involve deeper or alternative dynamics, trust is paramount. Without absolute candour and honesty, that trust can easily be compromised. For any meaningful connection—whether it’s personal, romantic, or otherwise—being upfront about desires, boundaries, and expectations is essential. Without this foundation, things can quickly unravel. I am looking for a relationship built on total transparency and mutual trust, where there’s no room for dishonesty or ambiguity. You want things to be clear, direct, and real. I respect that; in any connection, being upfront and true to one another creates a solid foundation.

 

 

I try to convey a strong level of dedication and willingness to invest in the future. If you’re seeking affirmation or feedback while ensuring the other person understands the depth of my commitment and how much I am willing to invest into a relationship

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