The Act of Surrender
By Aramock Nanucl
The act of surrender (actual submission) invokes a mix of apprehension, trepidation, and fear; as well as exhilarating, uplifting (and yes) genuinely liberating. The inspiration you receive from the act is as fulfilling as any other social change likely to happen in one's life.
Sub-Space - A High
There is almost a spellbinding effect that occurs ("sub-space") with the first session with a natural dominant that takes the one to the edge of tolerance when they surrender. The closest to this a "vanilla" person gets is the release they feel when relaxing, oriented to rejuvenating vacation. Conversely, the sense of exhilaration comes from an adventure vacation filled with high risk and very intense activities. A submissive gets this all during those specific and feature-rich sessions with a dominant.
Freedom is an Illusion
The sense of helplessness gives you the vital energies to fuel their captivity. The lure of being trapped, control and monitored is passionately personal bordering on traumatic. This stress comes from the mental questioning of how far the dominant will force their will upon the submissive. Freedom is just one such illusion that a submissive and individuals outside the lifestyle (or authoritarian regimes) have in common. Liberty is not the same as freedom; even liberty has constraints based on the community's standards, customs, and regulations.
Over 2000 years ago, Plato stated, "the person who dares, to tell the truth, is called at once a lunatic and a fool." Regimes like North Korea, China, Russia and even the US all restrict the truth and the liberties of their people. The US is probably far more dangerous and scary than other places because it simply does not need the openly apply a brutal but does so every time they see the need. Guantanamo Bay, Wiki-Leaks, Snowdon are all examples where freedom is a convenience they contrive for the masses, but it is an actual application in effect limit.
Dominants turn illusion into the Alternative Lifestyle Reality
Dominants know this well, and even in the language, they choose words very exceptionally to invoke specific responses and emotions. The more practiced a dominant becomes, the more this pattern becomes pervasive. Even in day-to-day activities, at work or shopping, or talking to strangers, this affectation comes across. The dominant constantly plays with "the illusion" factor as they focus on fulfilling the fantasy needs of their submissive. The longer manifested fantasy for a submissive and substituted for considering "social" reality, the quicker and more deliberately they stride towards their submission and claim it as their own.
Back to Society
Society constantly compels people to act by the will of the majority by coaching it as in the "best interest of the individual"; an excellent example of this is the "bicycle helmet laws." The dominant uses the same constructs but with focus and specific effect on a few, or the one. The difference is that the dominant is far more honest than society; they inevitably also clearly announce what benefit it is to themselves. It is one thing to have the sensation in your kit back and another entirely to realize that the fundamental security comes not from being able to slip the leash but rather knowing (like an errant dog) that if you run, you would return.
Freedom is Choice merged with Responsibility
Better yet, the question of escape is real, one of two where and from what. The reason modern lifestyle slavery works is not that the few control the many. It is that the many accept it because it is the natural order of things. Submission is not a gift; it is a reality thrust upon someone who takes it for the alternative is far worse to bear. For freedom has with it the responsibility to decide, choose, and be accountable for the decisions you make. Whereas the act of submitting shifts the accountability to the dominant. You surrender not because you want to but because the other choice means you must self-judge.
The intellectual discourse between dominant and submissive puts into words the actions they take. The realization occurs that the submissive and dominant are dynamic, which cannot exist without the other. The control, the sway of intellects, the throw of wills and wits generates its energy. Dominants get this energy from suppressing another's will, which is their ultimate pleasure. A submissive gets a release as if lifting the burden of the ages through surrender. It is not the moment of surrender but rather the point at which both realize the submission is a fact. It the emotional equivalent of a runner's high that then sustains the gruelling race ahead.
Other activities like bondage, discipline, humiliation, and sex are mere affectations of this: demonstrating and realizing the control. It becomes clear that each party wants what the other offers, but you are afraid. Are you terrified of accepting it; or are you more afraid that maybe you will have an opportunity to live this life in as real an approximation as possible into today's socially correct and morally conscientious world as is possible? I offer dominance; total ways misuse what we do not understand. So understanding the psychology behind how BDSM works... helps us understand our place in it.