Mind Setting

by Aramock Nanuck

Mar 2024

Evaluations by Questions

It is essential to ask open-ended questions to elicit a detailed response from a submissive. This is particularly critical when evaluating potential candidates. There are NO right answers, but the answers given will help determine how realistic their impressions are, how engaged they are, and if they are merely fantasizing or taking the lifestyle seriously.

Purposed Questions

What is different about the lifestyle and a vanilla existence that attracts you?

In what ways do you need to feel cared for and valued by another person?

What do you feel when being controlled?

How do you feel about surrendering complete control to another?

How does the surrender and deep trust in a Dominant make you feel?

How does the need for structure and rules to be controlled help you feel fulfilled?

How does being controlled make you feel safe, liberated and appreciated?

How have you found vanilla life lacking in supporting your self-improvement compared to the control exercised by a Dominant over you?

In what ways does being held accountable in a D/s relationship differ from being held responsible in a vanilla one?

What aspects of discipline and control make you sexually excited when with a Dominant, and do you get as stimulated in a vanilla setting?

What do you crave about being led down dark and taboo aspects of this lifestyle?

What is the difference in sexual fulfilment between being used by a Dom for his pleasure, and making love with a vanilla partner?

Describe the activities you or others feel are deviant behaviour, which you crave, and why?