Dark Castle - Sin
BDSM Canada & Training
Privacy and Dignity
by Aramock Nanuck
September 1979
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Participation in BDSM may have legal implications, especially regarding privacy. Many individuals have a flawed understanding of the law and how it relates to BDSM. This is further complicated, as it varies from country to country or jurisdiction (i.e., U.S. states). Many have laws that prohibit certain BDSM acts. In contrast, in others (such as Japan, the Netherlands, Canada and Germany), it is legal within the context of being a consent-based relationship. Frequent court rulings have determined that carnal intercourse is a non-criminal offence. Many jurisdictions still make torment, confinement and physical abuse criminal acts. There is a massive grey area when it comes to the invasion of privacy. The most recent court rulings have established that if stated and covered in an agreement, it is permitted. Otherwise, it is excluded.
As a submissive, it is perfectly fine if you close a door when on the toilet, naked or only wearing underwear or writing into a diary in private. But beware that your dignity, self-respect, and pride are ty[ically managed by your Dominant. This is often one of the major differences between Safe, Sane and Consensual compared to Risk-Aware-Consensual-Kink. The specifics of which need to be articulated and followed in the dictates of an agreement.
Be aware that the Dominant will establish boundaries for you, which ultimately means they may interrupt any activity, walk in on you at any time or place, or insist on unannounced and irregular inspections. You can expect to be humiliated, and at times when other people in the lifestyle around displayed to them. Nothing is off-limits regarding you as far as many Dominants are concerned. Every shred of privacy you have is a privilege or a gift that can be taken away at any moment. That even the most intimate parts of your body and living situation are there for my pleasure to view, use or access as and whenever wished. Often, unless specified otherwise in an agreement, they decide what is proper.
Keep no doubt in your mind that your Dominant alone is the custodian of your privacy and dignity; it is theirs to take away as they see fit. This will extend to items such as having access to your online personas, email accounts, and digital tools (e.g., laptops, phones). The evasive nature of this places more restrictions on young children than many parents place. Frequently, this is not intended to humiliate you, although it is used at times for that purpose; it is actually to protect the privacy of the household and the relationship.