Dark Castle - Sin 
BDSM Canada & Training

by Aramock Nanuck

     June 1996

 

Fetish or Everyday Life

There are many situations where the aspects of pain and one’s ability to tolerate come into play. Over 40 years of being in the lifestyle have shown that the experiences and abilities are as varied as those involved and the situation. Also, remember that pain is a part of every day, not just fetish life.

 

Everyday Experiences

The scrapes and bruises as a child on the playground, playing through sports injuries, giving birth to traumatic pains of being shot or stabbed and still working through the pain to achieve a goal. The situation in everyday life is all genuine, sudden and without warning. This, in fact, the reactions far more sudden as opposed to fetish pain.

 

Fetish Experiences

Fetish pain is almost always a part of a planned, staged, and coordinated activity. The submissive or masochist is fully aware of the impending action and the expected sensation after the first few times. This allows the mind and body to compose themselves in preparation for the impending pain. A perfect example is the bare-handed spanking. Both the Dom and sub will share in the experience proportionally.  They each are fully aware of the impending sensation and experience.  Other activities such as tight bondage, flogging, candles, fire, needles, and cutting are all intimate and have varying intensity levels.

 

Maso Current State

The biggest concern is to focus on the experience level already had by the receiver. Starting at the levels they are comfortable with gives them a sense of expectation and not pushing harder than they can endure. The approach from here is to slowly over time (many sessions) to add moments of increasing intensity. Always push the masochist’s limits and boundaries over a managed time. The more and broader experiences, the more an individual will develop their endurance. 

 

Accountability of the Dominant/Sadist

This is one area where the Dom/sadist must pay attention to the safe words of the sub/masochist.

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